Memento Mori

“Are you okay? they ask

i respond as quickly as i can so they will not notice the earthquakes in my voice or the tsunamis in my eyes or the drought in my heart.”

Ellen Everett, Poet

Song: Waiting for Never – Post Malone

Article: Synchronization can be distracting by Seth Godin

Thought: Memento Mori means “remember you have to die.” I visited Boston and the symbol (skull with wings) for memento mori was on many gravestones. It felt like a timely reminder for me.

Am I telling the people I care about them? Am I showing up well for the people who show up for me? Am I practicing forgiveness? Am I honoring my needs? How will I be remembered?

The history in Boston is represented by buildings, monuments and plagues. They can’t be missed. When I’m gone will I have left a monument in the hearts of people? I know what I want it to say: Steven cared. Unconditional, he gave. He loved me and I knew it. He made me laugh and sometimes cry. He was loyal and didn’t give up on me even when it was hard. He was vulnerable in a messy world.

I constantly fight the thought that I will be forgotten. I know I cannot control the outcome of what other people think but I can control the effort I give. I want to make a difference – one person at a time because memento mori.