“Every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”
Glennon Doyle
Song: Learn to Fly by Foo Fighters
Article: Why we need ’emotional diversity’ at work right now by Tim Leberecht
Thought: The universe is about to line up a string of these soundtracks along some important dates for me. The next one is paraphrased from Glennon Doyle’s quote above – I’ll disappoint everyone else before I’ll disappoint myself.
This week is my last at Brown And Caldwell. That might come as a bit of a shock to some. It might come with disappointment by many. I’ve had really hard conversations the past few weeks with friends trying to convince me to stay. They mean well and mostly just care about me.
I set myself some boundaries; those boundaries were not respected and so I had a difficult decision to make. Would I hold my boundaries or change them to the situation? I needed to do right by me knowing the disappointment it might cause.
I care about my friends very much. I care about what they think of me too (i.e., my career, my relationships, my hairstyle). For a long time, I used what my friends and family thought to guide my decisions. I was very unhappy. In the last few years, I have stopped doing that because I know I’m enough. Their disappointment is theirs to manage. I need to live my truth and values regardless of their feelings about them. It requires vulnerability, confidence and hope.
I’m excited and scared for my new start at Trinnex. I know one thing for sure – I’m not disappointing myself by making this life change.